Nurses are a funny bunch. Ninety percent are female and (guessing) three quarters are on their second marriage; the other portion of them are either newlyweds or vehemently single (after being divorced). One in a few hundred are still happily married to their first love.
In observing them (from my desk perch at the nurse's station), I've noticed a few generalities:
1. Nurses tend to want to be needed and enjoy (to a point) having to take care of someone and "fix" them.
2. Nurses pour themselves into their work with little or no return from the patient (emotional or otherwise).
3. Nurses don't like confrontation and learn to be passive-aggressive.
There are always exceptions and, as a whole, a good nursing floor becomes like an extended family where true interaction, conversation, and support happens on a daily basis. After all, we spend 1/3 of our lives together in close proximity and go through life and (yes) alot of "the valley of death" even on the calm floors.
Perhaps, the key to their working relationships is just that, we are forced to work together. Not for the paycheck, but because we have a common goal. If a nurse has a tough patient, we all feel it, we all help, we all listen, whether we like it or not, whether we like them or not.
If you become isolated and withdrawn on a nursing floor, you'll quit, which is a known weak spot and weapon. If someone doesn't help others or carry their load, they become shunned in increasing degrees. Sooner or later, the offender either comes around or quits.
I wonder if the same things happen in marriage; unequal loads lead to isolation which leads to quitting and then divorce.
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